10 More Truths

 

10 More Truths…

By Ryan Chandler~@NayrRyChi

  1. Chase success, not money…Don’t allow your reality to kill your dream
  2. Acknowledge what people have done, instead of what they have not
  3. Sex is an expression of love, lust, or curiosity
  4. Two types of guys that will forever attract women are: Funny Guys and Bad Boys
  5. When two “friends” have sex for the first time it is now the beginning of something great, or the beginning of the end
  6. Listening and hearing are two different things
  7. There is a lack of Alpha Males
  8. Some men tend to get lazy once comfortable in a relationship
  9. A man will do to a woman whatever she allows
  10. Social Media has changed the dynamics of dating

 

 

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Ryan Chandler is a 23 year old south side Chicago Native and emerging hip-hop journalist. He is an avid hip-hop enthusiast who is not only immersed in the music but the dynamics of the culture, as a whole. Ryan aims to use his passion for hip-hop and people to further elevate the community. He has written for notable Chicago blogs such as FakeShoreDrive and is a welcomed contributor to the Street Intell brand.

 

 

10 Truths

Everyone thinks they know everything there is about relationships and they journey from one experience to the next often times neglecting the writing on the wall. Here are 10 Truths that I’ve found to undeniably stay the same:

 

  • Every man was once a nice guy… but nice guys finish last.

 

  • Men and women can become intimidated by someone who has exactly what they want.

 

  • People make time for what or who they want to make time for.

 

  • We have all used somebody at some point.

 

  • “Friends with Benefits” has an expiration date.

 

  • Time “together” should not be measured by length, but by the events within the journey.

 

  • People want honesty but often times can not handle it.

 

  • A generation of dating is becoming NUMB.

 

  • Some Men look for a mother and a H@* in the same Woman.

 

  • Problems from past relationships can carry over to create problems within the new relationship.

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By Ryan Chandler | @NayrRychi

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Ryan Chandler is a 23 year old south side Chicago Native and emerging hip-hop journalist. He is an avid hip-hop enthusiast who is not only immersed in the music but the dynamics of the culture, as a whole. Ryan aims to use his passion for hip-hop and people to further elevate the community. He has written for notable Chicago blogs such as FakeShoreDrive and is a welcomed contributor to the Street Intell brand.

 

 

11 Ways to Know You are NOT Over Your X

Often times as people we tend to end relationships without fully closing the door. We leave just enough room for a small dash of hope to potentially fill the void and bring things back to what they were. Here are a few quick ways to analyze your behaviors and determine whether you are still stuck on your X.

  1. You stalk your  on social media.
  2. You and your  X continue to have sexual relations.
  3. You try to “sleep” [around] your pain away from splitting with your X.
  4. You can’t stop brining up your X in a conversation.
  5. You are still upset about losing your X—regardless of who dumped who.
  6. You are afraid of someone new fulfilling the void from the X.
  7. Instead of moving on and giving other people a chance you want to just quit trying.
  8. You allow negativity from the past relationship to spill over onto a new person and/or relationship.
  9. You can’t stand the thought of your X having any form of relations with another person.
  10. You continue to attempt to be social with people very close to your X.
  11. If You can not honestly say you want the best for them… guest what? You are NOT over your X!

 

 

By Ryan Chandler | @NayrRychi

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Ryan Chandler is a 23 year old south side Chicago Native and emerging hip-hop journalist. He is an avid hip-hop enthusiast who is not only immersed in the music but the dynamics of the culture, as a whole. Ryan aims to use his passion for hip-hop and people to further elevate the community. He has written for notable Chicago blogs such as FakeShoreDrive and is a welcomed contributor to the Street Intell brand.

 

 

Who Shot Chivalry???

 

 The disappearance of chivalry falls on the shoulders of both young men and women.

First up is us fellas. It seems that a void has been created leaving us out of touch with how to be romantic, respectful and a gentleman. We as men have forgotten how to court a young lady. Even the simplest acts of chivalry have become irrelevant; such as opening doors, being on time and handling the bill— on at least the first couple of occasions.

So now that we know the problem, how do we fix it?

For starters we must not feel uncomfortable doing something “different” from our circle of social normalcy. Meaning we shouldn’t be concerned if people chastise us for doing things they are not doing; like opening doors. Second, we can’t let things that stimulate us have an impact on our personal decisions. Just because a certain musician, role model, etc., does or says ‘this’ and ‘that’ does not mean that is who we are. There is nothing wrong with showing a woman you have morals and respect for not only yourself but her as well. It is time for us to step up as men especially men with kids; children must see and know the correct ways that men and women interact. For those who may not have children, make a change for the women in your lives such as your mothers, sisters and grandmothers. It’s time for us as young men to grow and evolve.

The partner in crime in the attempted murder of chivalry is … Women.

Ladies, you must remember that a male will do to you, whatever you allow him to do. This means that if you have your standards and respect bar are set low, then that is what you will receive. Women are our Queens and should always be treated as such but most importantly, Women MUST treat themselves as Queens. The reason why men have become so ignorant to chivalry is because women allowed it.  Now here is when the true challenge for both men and women arises. Women you cannot demand chivalry and respect in an “angry” way or  say every single time you are in a car with a male he must open and close every door. It has to be a reasonable approach. You may not get whined and dined every night so be practical and appreciative. Keep in mind that you cannot neglect the fact that as men we deserve appreciation as well. A humble ‘thank you’ does more than an arrogant demand.

On the other hand, Men we have to be aware of balance when it comes to chivalry. Keep in mind there is nothing wrong with the core of what we are doing, we need to be able to open doors and cover bills along with the other things we do. But we shouldn’t get comfortable. There is nothing wrong with just “hanging at the house”; it’s a problem when that is all you know. It all comes down to being diverse and balanced. Maintain your core but never be afraid to add different dimensions.

Now that we’ve put the broken pieces of the puzzle back together, it is evident that we are all guilty subjects pegged at the scene of the crime.  However, at the end of the day let’s not play the blame game. Instead let’s continue to try with each other and most importantly keep chivalry alive!

 

By Ryan Chandler | @NayrRychi

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Ryan Chandler is a 23 year old south side Chicago Native and emerging hip-hop journalist. He is an avid hip-hop enthusiast who is not only immersed in the music but the dynamics of the culture, as a whole. Ryan aims to use his passion for hip-hop and people to further elevate the community. He has written for notable Chicago blogs such as FakeShoreDrive and is a welcomed contributor to the Street Intell brand.

 

 

Enitan Bereola II, author of @Bereolaesque has released a new book entitled Gentlewoman. Read more here… #StreetIntell

Best selling and award winning Author Enitan O. Bereola II is back with another installment in his modern etiquette series: Bereolaesque.  This time he has crafted something specific for the ladies. “GENTLEWOMAN: Etiquette for a Lady, from a Gentleman,” is a book  celebrating the regal yet sultry nature of women. It is a book that can be enjoyed by many, it appears to be written as a way of accentuating the positive aspects of womanhood.  Eintan provides sound and useful advice backed not only by years of research but some noted celebrity authors such as Hill Harper. The book highlights many fine points of Enitan’s mission and that ‘mission is to bring back the gentleman and reintroduce the lady to a society who has forgotten what they both look like or never experienced one.’

Buy the Book

Enitan states, This isn’t one of those “how to get a man” books or “he thinks he’s right because he’s a man” books. This took over three years to get right. This is an etiquette book for women, written by a man–a crazy man, crazy over you and crazy enough to write for and about you. Your legacy is being watered down and society is taking notes. “GENTLEWOMAN” is fresh, fun and sexy uncommon sense advice designed to facilitate a necessary conversation amongst the sexes that leads to real solutions. 

Looking for a little spin on your self-improvement? Well enroll in Bereloa’s modern day etiquette class and ignite  the ‘Gentlewoman’ in you just in time for the new year.

 

The ‘Natural Hair’ revival has made its way to the DMV

For decades, African-Americans (and other races) have struggled with the unanswered questions and frustration of managing their natural textured tresses. From the days of hot combs and texturizers to modern Dominican blow outs and harsh chemical relaxers the challenge of taming the curl has been something sought after by many people. In the past 6 or 7 years there has been a growing desire for many African-Americans in becoming more conscious and self-aware. The beauty that blossomed from that is the push to learn how to take better care and maintain basic beauty and health regimens in organic and holistic manners. Out of that birthed what many know as the “Natural Hair movement” or what we refer to it as the “Natural Hair revival.” Spreading  across the US, in major cities like New York, Philadelphia, Houston and Atlanta, natural hair enthusiasts have been popping up all over the place. Coincidentally, it is certainly nice to see that the natural hair revival has made its way back into the nations capital..

Just about every where you go now you can see aisles and shelves of hair care products lined in stores dedicated to helping grow, enhance or straighten natural hair. Now the importance of having these products is good but knowing how to use them is the real challenge. However not to worry there are certified brave souls (natural hair bloggers/vloggers) that are kind enough to test out these products and provide a review. That however can be tricky but to take it a step further there are certified natural hair stylists, yes we said it, stylists that specialize in treating your kinky, coiled, and curly tresses. What a beautiful thing to have options!

Speaking of options it is nice to see more people taking note to the importance of hair and health education for people of color who choose to wear their hair in its natural state. The District’s Natural hair community is budding, with tons of different natural hair shows, expos, and events popping up; it is easily becoming a black woman’s [and man’s] dream. Being born with kinky, coiled, or even curly hair doesn’t come with an instruction manual so it’s comforting to know that many people are committed to writing up that Draft.