FEAR- False Evidence Appearing Real.
Anyone else remember this grade school acronym?
Well that’s exactly what fear is. No matter how small or large your fear may appear, you CAN conquer it! Here’s how:
Do something you’re scared of.
Do the things you’re scared of. Crazy statement, right?! No. The number one way to conquer a fear is to confront it. Please don’t go trying insane things that put you or others in harms way. But do your best and try to face even your smallest fears head on. Slowly expose yourself to what makes you feel uncomfortable until it becomes more familiar.
Forget about it.
Forget how scary that thing is and retrain your brain to think about the positive and optimistic points of what you fear. Our thoughts enhance our reality. You ever notice the more you think about how scary something is the more tense you get? Well challenge yourself to take a deep breath and turn your brain off. Focus you attention on the things that give you strength and keep you calm. Mind over matter.
Connect with fearless people.
If you are having trouble harnessing your inner strength then connect with fearless people. Observe their habits and even ask them how they stand up and face their fears. You become the people that you align yourself with.
You’ve gathered these small tips ,but before you go any further in conquering your fears you must first understand the power of your purpose. You have to know what you’re here to do. The notion of finding ones purpose is imperative to your success as a person. And this knowledge of self is what makes it is okay to try. Try out as many things as you need and fail as many times you can, until you recognize what your purpose is. As my great Aunt Thelma always says, “Nothing Beats A Failure, Better Than A Try.”
Fear is all about control and once you master yourself you will begin to realize the things you feared were conquerable all along. You have to let go of those fears in order to achieve the impossible. Take these tips into consideration and go out there and be great!
So, we all need an outlet/platform on which we can be/feel completely free to say/type whatever. This will be ours. I’ll pose a question or share a “secret” but you all must answer or follow up, openly and honestly.
In your opinion, what is it about you that would make a man/woman fall in love with you?
We can all plan to sleep when we die
but for now
let’s continue to live in sin
Let’s continue to live beyond our wallets
We were taught to live without a care for our tomorrow’s..
we keep misdirecting our anger and fear.
I could tell you who to be mad at
but you wouldn’t wanna hear.
– Sankofa Byrd
Every year people set out to start the New Year by making resolutions. They generate a list of all the things they want to accomplish, check it twice and about 6 weeks into the New Year that list gets rolled up and toss to the side. Don’t be that list tosser; pin point your goals and stick to them.
Here are 5 ways to stay motivated on your goals this year.
Write down your goals.
It is one thing to mentally say you’re going to do something but committing those thoughts to paper allows you a point of reference. Journal, write on a calendar, or create a vision board to keep track of things and use that as a daily reminder of all you will accomplish in the New Year.
Recruit someone to help you stay on task.
Finding support is crucial to staying motivated. Having an accountability partner or someone to share your struggles with is always beneficial. Don’t be afraid to ask for help however you want to make sure you pick the right person to keep you on task. Don’t pick someone you know will easily distract you.
Pick apart your fears and conquer them.
May sound crazy but knocking out even your smallest fear can help you find the drive to keep pursuing goals. Fear is a major part of what limits our success as individuals but if we identify and tackle our fears we can do anything. Start small and work your way up to the major ones.
Celebrate your accomplishments.
Stop beating yourself up about not achieving a desired goal; give yourself credit and approval to be human [this is not a free pass to slack off]. By taking time to celebrate your accomplishments you allow yourself a break and incentive to keep going. Go dancing, treat yourself to frozen yogurt or buy that new book. Adding stress to achieving goals never helps so take time and appreciate your efforts.
Help someone else.
This does not mean neglect your responsibility or commitment to yourself but often times helping someone else can provide a mini boost in enthusiasm to help in obtaining your goals.
Now that we’ve addressed 5 ways to stay motivated, let’s make some amazing things happen this year. Ready.. set.. GOAL!
Until next time… Street Intellectuals stay positive and progressive!
Somewhere between bad jobs, unfinished tasks and common frustrations, you may have contemplated chasing your dreams. Well wait no more, your destiny is calling! Lol But before you jump out that window, take these 5 important questions into consideration.
What is it that you really want?
Often times we venture out on a limb chasing forbidden fruit. In most people’s case that forbidden fruit is an idea or wish. But we don’t really identify exactly what we truly want until we’ve exhausted all the trivial wants. You may say “oh I don’t want to work for anyone anymore or I want my own business” but you never really address the main overall want. I try to narrow down my want and it fell on me wanting to be happy. But when I really thought about it I want access to true wealth and financial freedom . So ask yourself and be as specific as possible, what is it that you want?
Who is going to stop me?
Yes, I know we’ve all heard it before “anything is possible and no one can stop you”. But what about that small voice in the back of your head that tells you, “you have no clue what you’re doing?”. Identify that voice of doubt and silence it. That my friend is the only way you are going to achieve your dreams. Get out of your own way and then you will be unstoppable.
Where am I headed?
We get high sprung and hung up on the the excitement of finally deciding to venture out into the wild that we forget to plan. It is a fact that planning is a big part of succeeding in anything in life. Don’t get me wrong, i’ve never been one for planning. I kind of like to operate on the wild card mentality “let’s throw it out there and see what happens”. But as my dreams continue to unfold I am realizing that every journey, whether up the street or across the sea needs some kind of map.
How can I get to where i want to be?
This is by far the toughest questions out of the 5. The How! Everyone can easily identify the what and where but what stops most people is that infamous how. I know take a deep breath… woosah. In the stillness of your breath just allow yourself to think. Naturally, you are probably a master advice giver when it comes to family members, friends and heck random people on the street. But you have to understand that your ‘how’ lies in the knowledge that you give away. Preserve your dreams by first applying your “how-to advice” to your personal set of goals.
Finally but just as equally important. Ask yourself, when do I want to have these dreams accomplished?
Life 101: You must set deadlines. Yes, even for your dreams. It’s exhilarating to have a big dream mapped and planned out but unless you set a deadline, just face it that shit ain’t real. Lol okay, okay, that’s kind of harsh but hear me out. Most people function on procrastination and hesitation. So if you’re new to chasing your dreams you will naturally be hesitant in stepping out there. Therefore you’ll circle around the things you need to do and never really accomplish them. However, if you are under pressure of a deadline, alarms in you subconscious go off and you get into gear. Start by setting mini deadlines for small obtainable [realistic] goals and work your way out to the bigger ones.
Now that you’ve applied a little thought to the who, what, when, where and why of dream chasing… JUMP! Before you know it your dreams will catch up to your reality in no time.
Until next time… Street Intellectuals stay positive and progressive!